You may already be thinking, "that's all well and good, but to find the positive isn't always a piece of cake."  Do you really listen to yourself? When will you focus on who you are?

Its common to encounter people who seem negative, undiplomatic, critical or even downright nasty.  Your impulse may be anger and a desire to retaliate, to show them some of their own medicine.  Other options exist. What about showing some compassion?

How easy it seems to forget reasons explain why people are as they are.  Once a thief, always a thief?  Not necessarily.  Recall the story of Jean Valjean in Les Miserables by Victor Hugo? As a child, he stole bread to eat and was sent to prison. When he got out, people wouldn't hire him as he had a record.  So, he stole again.  It was all he knew to survive.  When a clergyman forgave him and generously gave him the silver he had stolen, this man encouraged Valjean to use it to become honest.  He did and it changed his life.

No doubt you think of people you know who have been very judgmental of your life or behavior.  They may disagree with your views on what is moral, legal, appropriate, justfiable or fair.  Maybe you are also very critical of yourself. How often do you chastise your own choices or results? Do you ever hear yourself echo sarcastically, "I told you so?"

You might ask yourself the purpose of passing encounters with difficult people.  How do they serve you?  What if they invite you to gain new insight into your own reasons for sensitivity or defensiveness?  What if they are a valuable tool to expand your self-awareness and open yourself to new ways of expressing and experiencing love?

Next time your reflex is to show someone 'the cold shoulder' or, avoid them as their behavior repulses or annoys you, reframe opportunity.  Rethink what makes you who you are.  You react as you do for hidden reasons.  How well do you truly know yourself? 

It may be easy enough to avoid people who 'press your buttons.'  You may have alternative places you could go rather than face repeated forms of discomfort. Yet, learning to interpret a tough experience as an exercise in positive thinking and compassion teaches you more than you realize.  Why not discern situations as teachers?

Some people have never been shown love or compassion or, don't have any memory of what this means.  Imagine the feeling of how your life would change if you knew different.  To express love and compassion to other people, to remind them of the power in positive thinking, you must start by reminding yourself its the core of who you are. - Liara Covert

*Never judge a person until you walk in their shoes. We each encounter people and situations who seem difficult to accept or love. It can be a challenge to express love consistently. This requires discipline and the will to open your heart wider.